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Will anyone come to my funeral?

There is no age to be prepared, and nothing to substitute for a well made plan perfectly executed. However, the best laid plans of mice o’ men are not enough, we now know, and whilst Robert Burns wasn’t thinking about COVID-19, when he wrote his poem, he knew only too well that life’s rhythm and routine can be turned in a fraction of time.

Will anyone be allowed to come to my funeral, even assuming they wanted to in the first place? How can we celebrate our lives, or the life of someone who has died if we cannot go to a funeral? These are some bizarre questions, but they matter and of course we might have to respond to the current crisis quickly ourselves. I am no fear monger, there are many reasons for just carrying on with our lives as normal, but this is a serious time for us to think about preparing for the worst, whilst hoping for the best.

Imagine if one of your loved ones does die now, from COVID-19, or from other natural causes. What could you do to bring everyone together? It would help a lot if the one who has died had indicated how they would like their life to be celebrated. 

Zoom or Skype meetings are the obvious first answer. One could specify, using something like www.Kwaetus.com, a big Zoom meeting to take place and describe what music could be played to welcome everyone, or sign out to. It might actually be fun imagining who to ask to say some things, even though I wouldn’t be there if it was my death of course.

Maybe, when this virus has disappeared I could change my ideas back to a proper party, where people gather, talk, lament, laugh, everything that we do when we meet to celebrate the life of someone we loved who has left us? That day will come soon I hope, because the current climate of fear and repression is so antagonistic to all that is human.

Human life has the appearance of strength and vitality, but when illness strikes and someone is laid low, or even dying, that illusion of strength evaporates. The true fragility of our lives is plain to see, and it is disturbing when we carry a picture of health and physical joy with us as the natural state. It is not good to dwell with morbid interest in our natural demise, after all there is life today to be lived. Still it is very important to think about the end of our life, because the timing is very uncertain. The COVID-19 problem emphasises this. Nowadays one can live and well and die well too. There is no need to leave things in a mess or leave loved ones without a clear message of love and ideas about how you would like to have your life remembered.

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