How to Deal with a Death Caused by Covid-19
Death is a terrible thing. But after death, comes grief, which can last for a long time! This year, 2020, has been a very unfortunate time for many. The world is suffering from a global pandemic and although many people have not suffered in any way at the hands of the virus, Covid-19 is a very real thing for millions of people worldwide. Coronavirus is not an illness we’re used to dealing with, yet it has resulted in over one million deaths across the globe. In the midst of a pandemic and a subsequent financial crisis, dealing with grief may feel like a confusing task right now. Here are some tips on how to cope with death and grief caused by Covid-19 during such a challenging and hectic time.
You’re Not Alone
If you’ve lost a loved one from Coronavirus, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. This may or may not be a comfort to you right now. Unfortunately, there have been millions of Coronavirus cases around the world and at the time of writing this, over one and a half million deaths as a result of the virus. Connecting with people in a similar situation through a virtual support group or otherwise, could be just what you need right now! You are not alone in this. The shock, witnessing the sudden decline in your loved one’s health and then losing them, is a sad fate that a lot of people are facing. There are online counsellors and support groups out there that can help you through this difficult time. It’s important to talk and seek help if you’re really struggling!
On the other hand, you should treat your loss as a personal experience. While the family and friends of other Covid sufferers will understand what you’re going through, everybody’s life and situation is different. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve and don’t worry if you’re not making as much progress in the grieving process as others around you. The first step to recovery is acceptance and learning to accept what has happened takes longer for some than it does for others.
A Digital Detox
The internet and social media are extremely valuable tools that help us stay up to date with what is going on in the world but at the same time they can cause anxiety. There’s no denying that the main news stories to make headlines this year have been extremely negative. Although it’s important for everybody to know what’s happening, it’s understandable if you wish to take a break from it all. It can be said that we all spend more time than we should hooked up to technology, so it’s a good idea to take a digital detox once in a while.
Switch off your mobile devices, stay clear of social media and only check important news highlights if necessary. Taking a break from technology – a digital detox, for a day, a few days or even a week, can do you the world of good. It will give you time to refresh your mind and reconnect with real things in your life.
Knowledge is Power
On the other hand, if you are struggling to cope with losing a friend or relative to Covid-19 then it might be helpful for you to learn more about the virus. After all, knowledge is power and sometimes, the not knowing can lead emotions to run high and leave you feeling confused. Learning more about the virus and its fatality rate will help you better understand the situation.
After suffering the loss of a family member or dear friend, it is normal to become angry about what has happened. You might be feeling frustrated with your own limited capabilities to help while your loved one was ill. You could be feeling that angry with the medical system or the health care received by the patient. When we’re going through grief, it’s easy to point fingers and want to blame someone or something for your tragic loss.
The certainty of holding someone or something responsible for the death can make you feel better temporarily. Of course, pinning the blame on yourself or others is not the right thing to do. This is why it is advisable to learn more about the deceased’s condition and Coronavirus in order to answer any doubts, questions or worries that might be troubling you.
Remember to Take Some Time Out for Yourself!
Covid-19 is not your average virus and this hasn’t been a typical year. No matter whether you are self-isolating and not working, or continuing life as normal as possible, nobody is judging you if you need to take a break! Everybody deals with grief in different ways and provided that you’re not causing harm to yourself or others around you, there’s nothing wrong in letting grief take its course. You must do whatever you need to do in order to get through this troubling time and taking time out from your normal routine is one way of doing this! Don’t be afraid to take a break or ask for help when you need it. It will benefit you in the long run.
Replacing Bad Memories with Good
Coronavirus has been a recognised virus for about a year now. During this time, we’ve had Christmas, New Year, Easter, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, birthdays, christenings, births, weddings, and funerals. Since the Covid-19 outbreak, you may have found that you now associate certain events or celebrations with negative emotions because of what you’ve experienced throughout the pandemic. You may have even lost a friend or relative around the time of a special holiday, such as your birthday.
While there is never a good time to lose somebody close to you or experience problems in your life, it can be more difficult if it happens close to the time of a special occasion or holiday. As difficult as it might sound, the key to getting through these bad memories is to replace the negative associations with good ones! It could be a death or you might have suffered a great financial loss, which seriously impacted your lifestyle. Either way, don’t let these negative memories taint these special days for you, be it Christmas, your birthday, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, etc.
Try to avoid using materialistic purchases to compensate for your grief or anxiety. Instead, rewrite the negative associations your brain has with these special occasions by means of sentimental gestures and spending quality time with friends, family or pets! So let’s say that New Year reminds you of when you were experiencing hard times emotionally and you no longer like to celebrate the event. Nobody is saying that you ever have to celebrate the occasion again but rather than dreading that time of year, it is healthier to reduce your anxiety levels. If you’re planning a wedding, it could be the time of year when you finally set the date or bought your dress. Have you been longing for a new pet? This could be the perfect time to make that a reality.
Although seeking help in person is difficult right now, there is lots of information and support online. If you’re struggling or would like to talk to somebody about Covid-19, contact your local health care centre, undertaker or look online for support groups for those affected by Coronavirus.